Written by Tarmim Khan, an Educational Consultant, Counselor, Therapist, & Emotional Intelligence Coach, B.A Psychology & English
Khan provides 1-on-1 Virtual Coaching Sessions for Clients searching to improve their overall well-being and mental health–a safe space for individuals to discuss, express and share thoughts, feelings emotions and circumstances in a judgment-free safe environment: https://calendly.com/empathyqueen
Empathy. What is empathy?
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feeling of another individual.
We live in a world and generation of selfishness and instant gratification, even when it comes to human interactions. We are quick to get angry and blame rather than understand and empathize. We are concerned about our own needs and desires without being aware or even considerate of others. Researchers suggest it takes roughly between 5-7 seconds for us to judge someone. These judgements are more than often based on superficial things like the way a person looks, dresses, the color of their skin-tone, their body-image and the list can go on.
But what has this COVID-19 pushed the world to do?
It has forced us to suspend our judgements and look to one another as brothers and sisters of one race, this is a global pandemic affecting each single one of us–directly or indirectly. People are losing loved ones unexpectedly left and right, we do not know what the person we cross paths with is going through in their lives or what struggles they are fighting. Keeping this in mind highlights the necessity to be more mindful and kinder to one another.
Covid-19 is putting the human back in humanity, as a wake-up call to the world to WAKE UP and fight for recovery through collectively coming together and doing our due diligence as our moral obligation and responsibility.
The essential workers the world has once sneered or judged are now the nation’s leading heroes as they are the prime reason the rest of us get to comfortably receive the materials we so comfortably order from the luxury of our homes.
Pictured: Tarmim Khan
What has Quarantine made us realize? What can we gain from social distancing?
COVID-19 has taught us to not only be mindful but to be kinder with one another, to value our loved ones and the time we have with them, and to be mindful of the way we treat those we interact with.
With the world shutting down, quarantine forces humans to confront perhaps that which they may have been avoiding for a long time. Filling our lives with screen-time, social media, and nonstop routines has caused us to forget the simple things of life: just being, breathing, having a roof over our heads, and a peaceful importance of valuing one another and the conversations necessary to uncover and heal from built-up resentment tearing people apart, which causes us to fill our lives with everything else to serve as distractions to avoid focusing on that which matters most–the relationships we may have neglected but can be nurtured during this time.
Quarantine forces us as human beings to confront that which we may have been avoiding because it is only through confronting truths, realities, and having those difficult conversations are what’s necessary to bring about peace, connection and satisfaction.
That which we avoid only rises to the surface in subconscious and in unhealthy ways. Let’s be more grateful, mindful and thankful.
Perhaps the world will come out of this pandemic stronger than ever by valuing and nurturing our current bonds, striving for self-improvement, being more mindful and truly adopting a gratitude mindset and being kinder with one another.Â
ABOUT KHAN
I took my messes and turned them into messages through being the first successful business-woman in my family as a Therapist/Counselor and now an Emotional Intelligence Coach, raising awareness for anyone struggling to better their mental health through the concept of Emotional Intelligence and the impact of happiness and success on every aspect of life regardless of age or background. It has taken me 26 years to develop, master, and understand E.I. through my own experiences and traumas, coupled with my education and professional background as I continue learning through life being the greatest teacher.
I am currently leading Emotional Intelligence Trainings in my professional work and  also utilizing my talents and hobbies to help guide & coach those who are dealing with their own struggles and searching for relief–because as a true Empath, I truly understand and know how it feels to deal with struggles, be mistreated, judged, harassed, and neglected.
THATÂ is why I do what I do.
Because I know how desperate it can feel to search for any sign of hope that things will get better. I have been at rock bottom however my courage is what has led me to blossom from my battles as I now lead others to find their own voice, their own courage so they can continue to become the best versions of themselves so they too can lead, uplift and empower!
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